Our language is the reflection of ourselves. A language is an exact reflection of the character and growth of its speakers. ~ Cesar Chavez
The language you use is one of the greatest influencers of experience in your life. Behind the words you speak to others and say to yourself lives a hidden world of intentions, personal history, beliefs and conditioning and emotions that color the quality of your communication, shape your actions and deliver the outcomes you see in your world. Your choice of language is key to how you succeed and thrive in life.
Your use of language, its meaning and its delivery is formed throughout your life by such factors as your exposure to family environment (yelling and emotional outbursts? Quiet and aloof connection?); social conditioning (etiquette, local customs); and exposure to cultural norms and politics (education, peer pressure). Every human being’s foundational communication is formed in the same way, which makes language a tricky landscape to navigate.
Not everyone thinks like you. How you share what you mean is the critical responsibility of language and it takes conscious awareness of the biases and judgments that drive you and the other person to arrive at any clarity in a conversation.
What you say to yourself about yourself and about the world also shapes your language. If you are optimistic and positive, then the words you hear in your head about life and about possibility will sound like – yes, okay, ease, good enough. If you hold beliefs that life is difficult and always about strife and struggle, you will translate those beliefs into the words that filter those emotions into your consciousness and shape your self-image.
Language matters and it is changeable. Here are some tips to shift your language so life can give you more of what you want and less of what you don’t want.
When you realise that language is not benign, it changes how you frame your inner and outer communication. Getting your most authentic message across to yourself and to others happens when you become conscious of the influences on what you say and what others hear. You have the choice through deliberate and aware language to bring emotional, mental and spiritual harmony to all your relationships, especially the one you have with yourself.
What you say and how you say it matters because it tells others who you are and what you value in life ~ Chad E. Cooper