Be whatever you are right now. No more hiding. You are worthy, always ~ S.C. Lourie
Self-worth is defined as the sense of one’s own value or worth as a person. Cultural norms measure your value against standards of acceptability that are mostly impossible to achieve. They are the biggest blocks to being able to express your uniqueness and authenticity and they stop you from joyfully using your gifts to make a difference in the world
Your self-worth is often distorted by a lifetime of painful rejections and negative messages you may have falsely believed to be true. These experiences make you feel shameful and convince you that you are flawed, bad, wrong, or unimportant and that you do not matter.
Being good enough is not dependent on your successes or failures, your looks, your intelligence or having the right skills, your possessions or your interests. Your value and truest worth lies in your ability to look in the mirror and see authentic love and perfection looking back at you.
There is a difference between self-worth and self-esteem that is important to understand. While self-esteem is usually a short-lived moment of importance, success or positive self-regard that makes you feel validated, self-worth is all about the immutable core of your authenticity – it is who you are, what you stand for.
Where self-esteem compares and competes with others for that non-existent ‘special above others’ status, self-worth pays attention to a more stable platform of knowing your inner value and embracing what makes you unique.
Not feeling good enough or acceptable enough can manifest in your life in some surprising ways. Here are a few behaviours to consider:
The key to building self-worth is a process that begins with releasing the cellular information that fuels your false sense of self. From there, you can fill the void with a more realistic and loving view of who you truly are. Here are 7 steps you can take:
1] Breathwork: Breathwork is one of the most powerful tools you can use to let go of the personal code of lies you have embraced. Explore and heal the origins of your lack of self-worth using Breathwork as a release of the cellular imprints of damaging messages.
2] Self- Reflection: Take the time for self reflection to discover, believe in and trust what you bring to the world that is unique.
“Recognize the place in yourself that belongs to no one but you and allow yourself time for its exploration” ~ Geneen Roth
3] Forgiveness: Forgive yourself for your mistakes and failures and begin to see any experiences as simply part of being human.
4] Self-Compassion: Develop self-compassion and treat yourself with the same kindness and regard that you would give a friend.
5] Personal Boundaries: Define your personal boundaries and embrace the concept of Sacred Selfishness. Assure that your needs are met because they matter.
6] Take Action: Engage in activities that make a difference in the world. Offer a generous helping hand to others– volunteer, expand your own horizons through education and new pursuits that interest you and can support.
7] Self-Acceptance: Practice the uplifting art of self-acceptance. Resist the tendency to compare yourself to others.
Try this -> Make a list of 5 weaknesses and then find 5 corresponding strengths. Remind yourself every day for 10 days of those strengths.
Your self worth is the singular most fundamental aspect of your ability to love. When you see and accept your own perfection and individuality, you can then project that love and tolerance out into the world and start becoming a force for loving change.