I can remember insults and hurts like they are lyrics from a favorite song. ~ Jennifer Pastiloff
The stories you tell yourself about who you are and the drama you create around those stories, are often driven by your inclination to take things personally. Taking to heart how others judge you and letting their words define your self-image can ignite a firestorm of self-deprecating thoughts and beliefs that lead to hurt, disappointment and sadness in your life. It is a short journey from there to mistrusting your own wisdom and intuitive guidance that results in the construction of your story of victimhood and disempowerment.
Being sensitive to what others judge in you can create dramas and beliefs that damage your sense of self worth and leave you feeling hopeless.
“See! They are right. I told you…You are fat …You are fat…you are fat!” The mantra sets off a panic inside you as you frantically search for every weight loss method you can possibly find. Your story expands this one issue into a flood of memories about every other time you heard someone tell you what was wrong with you. It creates a false and crippling connection to every imperfection you know about yourself.
Taking things personally is a reactive cycle that sparks your story and its associated drama. In order to learn how to shift your reactions, it takes patience, awareness and making clear choices about what you will take to heart and what you simply won’t accept. Here are a few ways to stop the continual noise generated by others’ false judgements of you:
When the unfounded observations and opinions from someone else has power over you, it is challenging to hear your own voice and equally as difficult to appreciate that everyone sees reality through the lens of their own unconscious conditioning and unhealed perspectives.
What others observe about you is really a statement about their state of mind rather than a critique of you!
As you free yourself from the entangled web of false information that keeps you trapped in your story and drama, it is possible to embrace your unobstructed, authentic self and learn how to live fully supported by your inner wisdom and intuition.